Man and Empathy
Exploring Masculine Emotionality and True Empathy | Understanding Why Men Often Don’t Express Feelings Openly | Challenging Misconceptions About Empathy and Emotional Intelligence | Insights on Healthy Relational Boundaries and Emotional Processing | A Reflective Look at Male Vulnerability and Shadow Patterns
Matthew Brincat
5/28/20251 min read
When was the last time you heard a man talk about adversity?
Does that mean men don’t face it?
Maybe there’s a reason we don’t talk about feelings openly. Have you ever wondered what that reason might be?
Our way of feeling is often less personal, less wrapped up in drama. It’s a natural design — not emotional unavailability or lack of intelligence, just a different way of processing.
The real question is:
“Why do I expect others to meet me exactly as I want?”
Shadow alert!
You want to be seen, but you fail to see others as they truly are.
Today, empathy often means absorbing others’ feelings until they become our personal tragedy. That’s not empathy — that’s self-righteousness, signaling our unresolved emotions.
True empathy is understanding from your own rooted heart, ready to support only if the other requests it.
It’s a coherent connection with their experience, not a takeover of it.
To the naked eye, I might have addressed two different topics. Yet I left enough spaciousness for reflection, so one can link the two, and perhaps arrive at some personal realizations.